MY BIG SELF LOVE FAIL AND 4 WAYS TO MEET YOUR BASELINE NEEDS.
It all started last Thursday. I’d worked 6 days straight, launched The Bravery Board, worked out every day that week, and was feeling a cold coming on. I woke up and asked myself if I should go to the gym. I refused to be lazy and went, despite all signs saying no. After all, working out made me feel good, and I didn’t want to regret not going.
By the end of the day, I was crabby and irritable. I realized I hadn’t eaten much, and vegged out on an unusually unhealthy dinner because I was so tired.
By Friday afternoon I was feeling lethargic, sassy, and down.
“Am I bitter at someone?!”
“Is my mindset off?”
“Where am I not honoring myself.”
My body was screaming at me to slow down. It wasn’t mindset, it was much more simple than that. I had neglected my baseline needs, and when those aren’t met, all hell breaks loose.
I took a 2 hour nap that afternoon. (If you know me, you know how much I resist napping!) Once I woke up I felt really silly for not listening my my body and for over thinking my basic needs. I knew in my gut what I should do, but I pushed through because I thought I was the exception. I was trying to cure a physical issue with metaphorical mindset shifts and positive thinking.
The truth is that you can’t meet your deeper needs if the small, baseline things aren’t met. Sometimes, you guys, it is as simple as food, sleep, and water. Sometimes it isn’t about mantras and meditation. Sometimes you’ve just gotta eat a sandwich and take a nap.
Here are my 4 tips for meeting your baseline needs so you can thrive.
Know what you need
The best way to meet your baseline needs is to know what they are. How much sleep do you need to feel most alive and alert in your day? How long can you go between meals without getting lethargic and hangry? How much time can you spend with others without getting short and snippy?
Once you have a clear understanding of what you need, you can start to be intentional with these. My food fail last week was that I did not purchase food when my groceries ran out. I was living off snack foods and busyness, which does not make room for nutritious meals. Maybe this means meal prep, planning workout days, rest days, and alone time. And maybe it means going to bed and not watching that 6th episode on Netflix at 2am…
Be honest with yourself
What can you actually handle? Have you been true to yourself? It’s good to remember that you are a person with a body, a body that needs food, rest, sunlight, water, and love. You are not a machine, you are not the exception. You are human whose needs to be celebrated and honored! Be honest with yourself.
Remember it’s about nourishment
It is always about nourishment. We don't eat, workout, or wake up early to get ahead, change shape, or be better. We do those things to nourish our body and spirit, and when we come from a place of nourishment, we actually become better.
It really is as simple as taking care of the simple things like rest, food, and movement. When I meet those baseline needs, I am better in all areas. Be your best by taking care of your baselines this week.
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